It is difficult to accept criticism, especially when it is about your body. What makes it worse is if it comes from your man! But lets take the context in which he gives you his opinion and see if there is a chance that it could work in your favor.
Maybe he says something like, “Babe, your butt can be a little tighter.” At this moment, you would probably think, “How dare you?” This reaction is more than acceptable. By no means should anyone dictate how you look; however, if you look pass the “jerk-ness,” you may realize that men try their hardest to sound as caring as possible—at least when it comes to their lady’s health.
When I was in college, my fiancé told me I could work out more. At this declaration, I honestly wanted to roll my eyes and curse him out. It was not until a second glance that I knew I was not happy with the way that I looked. He was not trying to tell me to look like someone else; he was pointing out how I have changed. My eating habits took a turn for the worst, especially while dorming with the temptation of fast food all around, and questionable ingredients in the café. I gained fifteen pounds more than the freshman fifteen. I had curves that were definitely sexy, but needed some fine tuning.
So, I asked my fiancé to give me tips for the gym. I wanted a work out that would get rid of cellulite but keep my curves intact. He was more than willing to help because he cared. I still get lazy at times to do my exercises. I give the tired excuse or say “I don’t have time.” But I have noticed that I am more willing to work out because my attitude is more positive when I do. It is rewarding to finish a set of squats without him having to push me. Finding out that my body can go past limits I did not know it could go makes me feel like I can accomplish personal goals with self-motivation.
No, my fiancé was not the bad guy when he told me to do some squats, I would have preferred him to sound nicer, but he had a point. I was complaining about my weight and needed to do something about it. I am nowhere near perfect, but I am proud of myself for taking steps towards a healthier and more positive me. Ladies, you do not have to listen to his gym babble or take his suggestions into consideration, however, it is nice to find a way to reinvent yourself on your terms. From sophomore year of college until now, I have lost about twenty pounds. Some may say, that took forever, but the duration of time it takes to your goal weight does not matter. The point is I got there on my own terms and a push got me started.
– Written by Stacy